By Joyce Marter
“What we think, we become”
After twenty years of practicing as a licensed psychotherapist, I have deep respect for the power of self-fulfilling prophecy. According to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), our thoughts precede our emotions and our behaviors. If we allow our Inner Critic to put us down with negative and shame inducing thoughts about our bodies and our relationship with food, we spiral down in an endless avalanche of self-sabotage.
We all must:
- Choose something different.
- Choose something better.
- Choose self-love.
Reprogram your neural pathways by shifting to positive self-talk through the power of affirmation. In a moment of quiet meditation or reflection, say and repeat each of these twenty-five affirmations aloud. Consider choosing one per day and repeating it ten or more times. Make it your mantra for the day and say it anytime you notice your Inner Critic rearing its ugly head with negative thoughts.
“I am grateful to my body for safely and lovingly housing my spirit.”
“I have tremendous gratitude to my body for all the miraculous things it does for me each and every moment.”
“My body is filled with health and vitality.”
“My heart is filled with peace, love and joy.”
“I notice the feeling of aliveness in my body and am reminded that I am made of divine light and love.”
“I am not my weight or my waistline–I am the perfectly unique spirit that lies within.”
“I am my own loving parent, caring for my body as I would somebody I love very much.”
“I thank my body for its strength, flexibility, balance and resilience.”
“I honor by body with loving thoughts and healthy choices.”
“I have compassion for my body, honoring all it has been through and lovingly take responsibility for caring for it from here forward.”
“I forgive myself for at times neglecting my body. I understand this was a normal response to my nature and my nurture.”
“In an effort to free myself, I release any blame or resentment I hold for myself or anybody else, in relation to my feelings about my body.”
“One day at a time, I will remember my body is sacred and behave accordingly.”
“I care for my body by caring for myself and putting myself together as the beautiful person that I am.”
“I practice self-compassion and forgive the behaviors of the past. I understand they were part of my journey and am thankful for the lessons.”
“I choose love over fear and self-hatred.”
“I choose and bless the healthy food that nourishes my body, mind and spirit.”
“I say no to shame and self-sabotage.”
“I understand I am a human being, that we are all works in progress and I am not expected to be perfect.”
“I surround my body with loving light of compassion that protects me wherever I go.”
At first, you may feel some cognitive dissonance or discomfort as your Inner Critic may cause some resistance into allowing these thoughts to resonate with your mind, body and spirit. Keep “talking the talk” until these affirmations become your new belief systems leading the way to a new life filled with self-love and body positivity!