Let’s face it – struggling with perfectionism is common. Is it possible to have everything: the ideal career, house, gourmet meals, time to exercise (the list goes on)? Not likely. Typically when we ace one of life’s many arenas, another one likely suffers. But most of us find in the act of trying to be everything to everyone, including to ourselves, perfectionism creeps in, making false promises. And when we can’t live up to perfectionism we believe we are failures.
The truth is perfectionism is unattainable because imperfection is an innate part of the human condition. Constantly falling short of perfection can have a significant negative impact on self-esteem. As you think more about perfectionism, ask yourself what brings meaning to your life? I guarantee it will not be the sum of having “perfect” goods or the “perfect” body – especially not the body that is a falsely advertised figment of someone’s imagination.
If you’re having a little trouble getting started, begin with a simple pros and cons list. What are the benefits of perfectionism for you? And what are the negative consequences?
To learn more, consider reading Brene Brown’s book The Gifts of Imperfection.