selfie (ˈselfē) noun, informal: an image of oneself taken by oneself using a digital camera especially for posting on social networks.
Everyone’s taking them. Celebrities with Ellen at the Oscars. The president. Meryl Streep and Hillary Clinton combined their powers together for the ultimate selfie, but that’s just my opinion.
This little social media quirk has further placed stress on how we view our bodies and ultimately ourselves too. Photos of friends or celebrities (hell, even total strangers!) can send you down a rabbit hole of self-hate if you’re not quite in the right mindset. Why are they so thin, and I’m so much bigger? Why don’t clothes fit me the same way? Why can’t I look like that? Why am I not as attractive?
You can twist, angle, and light yourself perfectly to achieve the perfect selfie. You can even go as far as Beyoncé and have someone Photoshop you to achieve thinner thighs. (The telltale sign that it isn’t real? Her wine glass and iPhone are warped. And no, it’s not an iPhone 6 Plus.) But the key here is that it is not real. The one photo where you’re primped, posed, and protecting your insecurities is not what others will remember or love about you. Covering up how you feel inside will not make others like you more. It will not allow others the chance to get to know you either.
Recovery transparency is extremely important, because it helps move away from the isolation and depression brought on by an eating disorder. It heals broken relationships and allows growth for new ones with others and yourself. Take the shield down. The fight is with ED, not the people you care about. Come out of the shell. It’s a warmer world than what’s going on inside.
Your selfie may be less of a picture of you, and more of a picture of your eating disorder/body image. Next time you take a selfie, ask yourself …
What is your selfie supposed to make others think about you?
What is your selfie supposed to make others not think about you?
What are you trying to distract away from?
What are you needing from others in how they respond to it?
How much of yourself is in your selfie?