Two women huddle together over a table at Panera Bread sharing diet tips with each other. One woman is clutching her iPad as she discusses the rules of her new fabulous diet and how she was able to lose 10 pounds in two weeks.
“The trick is to only eat during certain hours of the day,” she says. “Only eat between 6 am and 4 pm. Don’t eat bread or pasta for dinner. It’s surprising how much your energy actually stays up throughout the day with a lower calorie intake.”
The other woman is leaning in as far as she possible can without knocking over her strawberry banana smoothie. “How much are you exercising? I just want to lose like, five pounds before our beach trip.”
The woman with the diet tips pulls up Facebook on her iPad and the two continue to discuss how much weight they want to lose while flipping through pictures of their daughters’ prom pictures while commenting how thin their daughters look in their dresses.
What has happened to us? We continue to search for happiness in every external source to avoid looking within ourselves. We believe that the next new diet will fix everything. If we can just not eat certain foods and only eat at specific times we will be able to lose that last ten pounds and then, POOF, we will be happy!
If only we could realize how much happiness could be derived from simply sharing a meal with another person. Try this scene on for size instead: eating the food that you so enjoy – the food that you won’t allow yourself to eat; putting the iPhones and iPads away, engaging in conversation, and connecting with a dear friend or loved one. When was the last time you did that?
Happiness can only be found within. No matter how much weight you lose and how much you change your appearance, you will never be content if you cannot learn to make peace within and love and appreciate yourself. Keep searching for happiness in external sources and I promise you that this search will continue forever.