Recently, I have been reading a lot about the importance of words and thoughts when it comes to living a fulfilling and happy life. I recently read that “Words create reality,” and after a conversation with a school counselor who happens to be a client of mine, she relayed to me that she counsels her students that thoughts become feelings and feelings become behaviors. With such a direct connection between words, thoughts, feelings, and behaviors it is no wonder why many people have self-love and body image issues.
Think about it. When women insult each other (or a man insults a woman) they always start by mentioning weight, when people are on weight loss plans they are constantly being bombarded with photo-shopped models in magazines and whether or not they are succeeding or failing when it comes to intake of calories. This lack of feeling up to par results in negative self talk or thoughts, which becomes feelings of self-hatred, turning into behaviors of self harm or behaviors such as binging, purging, or restriction.
So let’s change our perspective. Let’s look at weight loss as weight love, let’s look at every other person as beautiful no matter their size, let’s love ourselves as the amazing beings that we are!
So if your main struggle is self love; repeat this saying 50 times per day to yourself: “May I be safe. May I be happy. May I be healthy. May I live at ease.” This saying comes from the book May I Be Happy by renowned yoga teacher Cyndi Lee. It talks about how she overcame self-hatred to become truly happy.
Speaking of yoga; as I continue my study of yoga I learn more and more that the enlightened person looks at every individual as an extension of themselves. With that being said, one must love themselves before they love others. If you struggle with loving others one practice you can do is to make eye contact and smile at everyone you encounter today.
By showing love and respect to those around you, you will begin to show yourself love and kindness and vice versa! By initiating the practices listed above you will be directly responsible for creating change to the body image perspective.