**Warning: F-bombs abound in this blog post
The video Potty-Mouthed Princesses Drop F-Bombs for Feminism (please don’t watch if you are sensitive to F-bombs or sensitive to little girls dropping the F-bomb) sends a powerful message about feminism, the rights of girls and women, and the inequality that continues to exist between males and females. And I f’n love it!
What I’d like to address specifically from the video is how girls and women are objectified and viewed as being less than their male counterparts. I love how the video starts with all the little girls making reference to being a princess or a pretty princess, and then BOOM! “What the fuck! I’m not some kind of princess in distreeeeessssss!!!”
Now don’t get me wrong, I grew up thinking that I was indeed a princess. In fact, at 30 years old, my mother still refers to me as her little princess. However, let’s examine this concept of referring to little girls as princesses. We all know what happens to princesses and how the fairytale ends; some man, aka Prince Charming, comes along to rescue her, is her one true love, and they live happily ever after because clearly this princess was NOTHING and totally lost in life until “Prince Charming” came along. Give me a fucking break!
I think back to the lyrics of Snow White, “Someday my prince will come. Someday I’ll find my love … Though he’s far away, I’ll find my love someday. Some day when my dreams come true ….” Oh honey, you have so much more to look forward to in life than sitting around waiting for your “dreams to come true” just because some man/prince has declared his love for you. What kind of message is that to teach little girls?
Luckily, Disney seems to be getting a grip on the whole idea of being rescued by Prince Charming. Recent movies, like Frozen and Maleficent, have broken the traditional mold of “true love’s kiss” to break whatever spell the Princess is under. In both movies, “true love’s kiss” come from family, i.e. the love of two sisters in the movie Frozen and a mother’s love in the movie Maleficent.
Additionally, the video from the little girls dropping F-bombs addresses the concept that little girls must be “pretty.” Now, being called pretty is indeed a compliment. However, as the video discusses, it may send the message that a female’s worth only or predominantly comes from being pretty leading to an over-emphasis on her appearance and body instead of her worth coming from her entire being.
It’s ok for girls to receive the compliment that they are pretty, but let’s also praise them for being smart, funny, powerful (or what many people call being a bitch, but that’s a whole other conversation), etc. I also love the little boy they have dressed as princess at the end of the video who basically says, when you tell a boy to stop acting like a girl, it’s because you think being a girl is bad, weak, irrelevant, less than, etc.
So, to quote one of the cute little princesses, “Fuck that sexist shit!”
By Courtney Thomas, LCPC at The Body Image Therapy Center. If you would like to get in touch with Courtney please call 443-602-6515 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.